28 Ramadan 2018: Being grateful

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Prophet (PBUH) said: A grateful eater is equal to a patient fasting person.(in Ibn Majah)

Year after year, I always reflect on whether it is harder to be patient through hardship or be grateful through blessings.

According to this saying, we don’t have to suffer and be hungry in order to attain salvation, the path to salvation could very well be gratefulness. As usual however, the key question becomes, do we recognise the blessings to begin with? That is not a trivial challenge.

Some swear by daily journaling of three things they are grateful for. Some swear by recognising the blessings in contrast to specific challenges they face. Some meditate to get in touch with their areas of thankfulness. Some simply recognise the blessings.

Whichever way, as we near the end of this blessed month when all our schedules from eating to prayer and working to sleep have been completely changes, I ask god to help us recognise and be ever thankful for our blessings not only during this month but until the next Ramadan and beyond.

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6 Ramadan 2018: Basic Realities

Life’s up and down from the time you get here to the time you leave – Luke Bryan

There are three basic realities that make acceptance easier:

  1. We are all here for a limited time and we don’t know if that time is short or long, all we know is that it eventually ends. So the question becomes … would I rather spend it accepting things I cannot change or focus on the good things that I can?
  2. We have some good days and we have some bad days. We have some tough teammates and some awesome ones. We have good, and bad, hair days. Some days we feel we can do anything and on others, we wonder where the *&^% are we heading? Some days we feel nothing can stop us, and on others, we are sensitive to every word, every look, and every gesture.
  3. We absolutely can never predict the future. We can think of likelihood and possibilities. We can think of cause and effect. We can think of risks and coincidences, but no matter how hard we think, analyse or squeeze our brains, we won’t be able to predict the future.

With these three realities one does start to see life as a ferris wheel, it goes up and down, round and round. Sometimes we wait in one spot longer than others as others are embarking or leaving cars. We often ride a ferris wheel assuming no malfunction would occur trusting others to have tested or maintained the ride, we just let go of control.

So then … again, why don’t we just go with the “ride“?


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28 Ramadan 2017: The Power of Prayer and Remembrance

In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was ‘Help me.’ Sometimes a prayer was ‘Thank you.’ What I’ve discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away. – Iyanla Vanzant

In these last 48 to possibly 72 hours of this blessed month, I urge myself and others to focus on asking god to help us find a way out of our challenges, bring us more of what blessings we seek and help us get closer to his mercy, wisdom and love.

Prayer is so powerful when done right; with honesty, goodness, purity of heart and intentions, along with a sense of certainty that our prayers will be answered.

Prayer through remembrance brings us closer to our creator, transcending all moments of despair as we reflect on god’s attributes and names.

Find a quiet space and focus on reaching as far up as possible with your soul and heart … ask him for peace, acceptance and tranquility within your heart that you can take with you everywhere you go and in every situation you encounter.

Ask him.



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17 Ramadan 2017: It can be much worse

Such is life and life is such and after all it isn’t much. First a cradle. Then a hearse. It might have been better, but it could have been worse. – Norman Wisdom

One very effective way around feelings of despair is the power of imagination … imaging how different and worse things could be that brings us back to the circle of thankfulness and satisfaction with self, society and god.

I know, this might sound like a passive approach to positivity and change but the truth is that it cannot be ignored because yes, things could be much much much worse and our current situation can become much much much worse in a split second.

Take one moment, and imagine just one aspect that could be worse … believe me, your feelings of desperation will switch, even if temporarily or momentarily, to feelings of thankfulness.

There are so many negative things in our world today. Thank god for our safety. Thank god for clean water. Thank god for food. Thank god for a roof over our heads. Thank god for decent health to move around. Thanks to god always.

So again, why are we sad? It really could be much much worse.

I may not be where I want to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be. Joyce Meyer



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27 Ramadan 2016: STOP IT!!!!

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. – Brian Tracy

I am tired of it … both if I do it and if others do.

We have limited time on earth, how can we waste valuable time that some don’t have on empty complaints !

Yes! Empty complaints, no matter how sad they may be, as complaining is a mask for nothing but lack of decision making or movement even if it is a decision to do nothing.

Enough is enough! 

Following from the last post, we are not helpless! It is time to take action.

Get angry, be upset, feel sad, but understand that you have more choices than you think and let us ask ourselves … what is the lesson here? Is it something I did? Something I didn’t do? What would I do next time … and move on.

May we be grateful … may we be grateful … may we be grateful.

Use what god as given you in gratefulness … in doing good … in making the world a better place!


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4 Ramadan 2016: Appreciation … Key to the Hearts

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.- William Arthur Ward

GiftIf you knew that this would be the last time you see your friend, what would you say?

If you knew that this would be the last time you talk to your mom, what would you say?

If you knew that this would be the last time you hug your child, what would you say?

If you knew that this would be the last time you spend time with your spouse, what would say?

… I would imagine it would be, “thanks for everything”.

Be it woman or man, adult or child, young or old, all want to be appreciated both in actions and in words. Being appreciated is all people need to feel and give love and feel worthy. The need to feel appreciated is part of who we are, it is part of our DNA.

More recently, I have started to ask myself why we don’t also appreciate strangers who may need someone to acknowledge the effort they put forward to fulfill a product or service.

Appreciation, is the key to the hearts to those we love, those we are neutral towards and those we do not know.

Appreciation is maybe all that is needed in today’s fast paced and over-scheduled lives.

Make it count by saying … thanks!

Thanks to god first and foremost for giving us the opportunity to live to see another Ramadan where we can ask for forgiveness and seek blessings from the all-generous giver.



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Thank (made by a 7 year old child)

Alya2you should always thank people especially god because he gave you food,water,

toys and many other things,and to think about it you should thank people when

they say or give something nice to you even though your sick or tired because

god gives you good points especially in ramadan,because imagine your walking

and someone comes and says ”I have a gift for you”you feel happy but you don’t

say thank you  that makes the person who gave you the gift feels like you didn’t

like the gift then that person gives you more and more gifts and you never say

thank you god gets angry for 2 resons 1. because you didn’t say thank you

2.because you didn’t thank god.Do you know why?Because god told them to

buy you a gift.Do you want to know the best way to have a happy life?





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4 Ramadan 2015: Gratitude

The more often we see the things around us – even the beautiful and wonderful things – the more they become invisible to us. That is why we often take for granted the beauty of this world: the flowers, the trees, the birds, the clouds – even those we love. Because we see things so often, we see them less and less. – Joseph B. Wirthlin

R4Nothing in this world can prepare us for the loss of a loved one. Nothing.

Losing my mom was one thing, but realizing the gap she left behind and the role she filled, was another.

Until today, I cannot comprehend how she was able to fill this gap and be a supportive force not only in my and my family’s life, but in the life of others.

But now I am starting to see some truth, and it is that when someone adds so much value in one’s life, it is usually hard, if not impossible, to see and appreciate the gap(s) they fill because they do it so well.

We all take the closest and dearest people to us for granted.

So, I am not sure if this is something we can actually change, for how can we appreciate something we didn’t realize we had to begin with?

All we could do is our best to seek the beauty in others and the value they add to our lives especially those closest to us, and make it our focus every time we think about them or talk or interact with them. From our kids to our spouses, from our parents to our siblings, from our neighbors to our friends, it covers everyone.

Why is it important? Because to appreciate and be appreciated is a basic human need which would bring happiness and satisfaction to us during the limited period of time we, and they, have on earth.

May god give us the ability to see clearly and appreciate during this blessed month those who touch our lives and hearts in so many ways … before it is too late.




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21 Ramadan 2013: Worth a Thought


We do not claim to know or not know anything, but as we spend the last 10 days of this blessed month in fast, prayer, and supplication … we also spend it in shopping for gifts and new clothes for the upcoming Eid celebration.

As we visited the malls, we were inspired to share this quote to lift the veil of unconsciousness giving ourselves an opportunity to reflect and feedback our experience by the end of the month similar to our entries in Ramadan 6 and Ramadan 13.

We have to create culture, don’t watch TV, don’t read magazines, don’t even listen to NPR. Create your own roadshow. The nexus of space and time where you are now is the most immediate sector of your universe, and if you’re worrying about Michael Jackson or Bill Clinton or somebody else, then you are disempowered, you’re giving it all away to icons, icons which are maintained by an electronic media so that you want to dress like X or have lips like Y. This is shit-brained, this kind of thinking. That is all cultural diversion, and what is real is you and your friends and your associations, your highs, your orgasms, your hopes, your plans, your fears. And we are told ‘no’, we’re unimportant, we’re peripheral. ‘Get a degree, get a job, get a this, get a that.’ And then you’re a player, you don’t want to even play in that game. You want to reclaim your mind and get it out of the hands of the cultural engineers who want to turn you into a half-baked moron consuming all this trash that’s being manufactured out of the bones of a dying world. -Terence McKenna

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12 Ramadan 2013: The Power of Thanks

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough. – Oprah Winfrey

RL12The power of thanks … well, is there one?

We wanted to reflect on this question from a Ramadan perspective … our finding? Yes!

First of all, what does ‘Ramadan perspective’ mean? It means, we reflect on this question from the perspective of one who fasts from sunrise to sunset and feels ‘hunger’. We reflect on this question from the perspective of one who refrains from normally acceptable desires such as sexual activity from sunrise to sunset. We reflect on this question from the perspective of one who feels the ‘thirst’ especially for those living in hot countries.

Second of all, given our ‘scientific’ nature, we use Oxford’s definition of power which is “energy that is produced by mechanical, electrical, or other means and used to operate a device”.

So, superimposing the definition of power into ‘life’ … we define the ‘power of thanks’ as …

Energy that is produced from giving thanks to god when one recognises their own blessings that others don’t have and uses that energy to do good, be good and use blessings in the best way possible that is pleasing to god generating even more and more blessings

Reminding us of a promise made by god …

“And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]” – Abraham Chapter, Line 7

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