24 Ramadan 2017: Don’t Wait … Just Start

Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. – George Herbert

How many times have we found ourselves within a very busy period of time at work or in life with parents or with children or with limited time or money to actually do what we want. In what we want, I am talking about things that our hearts and minds literally shout for within ourselves but we try to ignore them because we “can’t” and we don’t see a “way”.

The truth is, we think we won’t be busy tomorrow and we can get started then or we think our parents or kids will not need much of our time tomorrow or we will have more money and and and. That might be true but the truth is that these are all priorities in our lives and will not stop or go away.

Our parents, our children, our work, our money and any other resources or blessings god has given to us, they are all a priority and we must be committed to them, but there is a calling and one must respond to that calling without delay with whatever we have access to today.

We just have to start and see where it takes us from there without any expectations.

This post is a call to recognize, listen and respond to the calling, you never know, maybe the calling is today because it is critical I take action today for success tomorrow as opposed to delaying things.

Start moving … even if slowly, start, you will always have an excuse, might as well start today.

 

 

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20 Ramadan 2017: I think of …

He foresaw my every fall, my every sin, my every backsliding; yet, nevertheless, fixed His heart upon me. ― Arthur W. Pink

As we start the last third of this blessed month, I think of god’s mercy and love that enters our hearts when all else seems dark around us.

I think of god’s fairness in giving us all a set of strengths and talents that help us live a meaningful and fulfilling life.

I think of god’s wisdom and knowledge that allows certain tribulations to take place yet gives us other matters that give us hope and positivity for the future.

I think of god’s kindness that no matter how long we take to count our many blessings, we would never feel like we captured them all.

I think of god’s beauty as I look around and see the beautiful flowers, the magnificent skies, the chirping of the birds and the many beauty colors and designs they have together with the butterflies.

I think of god’s forgiveness as no matter how far we go and how much we divert from doing good in this world, god is always ready for us to come back and live our best lives for ourselves and for others as well.

With an open heart and an open mind, I ask god to uplift us all and give us yet the greatest days ahead with blessings, love and peace of mind and heart.

 

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19 Ramadan 2017: It is time …

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. – Steve Jobs

We all know the state of the world these days, what we didn’t need is another tragedy. We woke up to the story of a burning building in London where many are believed to be in critical state or have moved on from this life. May those who have left their families and loved ones behind rest in peace.

What it did get me thinking about is how something like this awakens something in one’s soul that tackles despair…we have a limited time on earth and if it was our turn tomorrow, what have we left behind?

A good reputation? Helpful advice? Some charity? Knowledge? Anger? Materialistic behavior? Shallow advice? Envy? Greed?

We are what we leave behind … and we leave behind our words, our money, our work, our families, and our friendships … so are they in the condition we would like to leave it in?

We might not achieve what we hope to achieve but at least we can try and people know we tried.

It is time … it is time to be free of fears and expectations that are unjustified.

It is time … to go after what we want and share it with others.

It is time … to enjoy each other’s time while we still can.

It is time … to help those in need in whatever way we can.

It is time … to choose our words carefully.

It is time … to commit to excellence in whatever we set our minds to.

It is time …

 

 

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16 Ramadan 2017: The Real You

Starve the ego, feed the soul – Unknown

As we approach the last days of Ramadan, it is worth looking back at the last 16 days and use the next couple of days to prepare for what it is we want, we hope, and we seek for the next year and beyond.

The last 10 days are special because those who fast this month believe that there is one special night that is bestowed on people who are genuine in their actions of worship, love and charity bringing great blessings with it where angels surround earth, the skies and the heavens above. It is also in this special night that our destinies for the next year are revealed, may they be great.

Reflection is key to this preparation as we have had 16 days to really see who we really are as fasting and the fasting month expose our souls in ways that are often more challenging day to day as we are busy at work, home, friends, and life more generally.

How were you with people? Did you gossip? Did you hurt someone with your words or actions?

How did you feel about people? Envious? Hoping for them what you hope for yourself?

How were you with your family? Your children? Were you angry? Were you kind and merciful?

How were you with money? Did you waste it? Did you share it with others through gifts and generosity?

How were you with work? Did you complete tasks with excellence?

How were you with god? Did you seek forgiveness for the *not so proud* things you did? Did you ask for all the things you want?

Ramadan is not about limiting food and drink, ramadan is about seeing who we truly are and working on what needs to improve and thanking god for the lovely qualities we have.

 

 

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14 Ramadan 2017: Why we struggle sometimes

If there is no struggle, there is no progress. – Frederick Douglass

Despite what we may see in life, be it in person or in social media, everyone struggles … everyone.

Looking back at all my previous and current struggles, I find this to be true … our struggles are stimulated by either something in the future that we need to be prepared for both in knowledge and resilience or something we need to learn about ourselves in order to lead happier lives.

Struggling with a business sale, struggles in relationships, struggling at work, struggles in health, struggling in school, they all uncover traits within ourselves that we need to work on or prepare us for what is to come in the future.

The key is to treat these struggles as such, means to self-improvement and happiness and not let them set in our hearts in the form of despair.

 

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9 Ramadan 2017: We are all special

Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world…if you do so, you are insulting yourself. ― Bill Gates

One of the causes of desperation is a worry about not measuring up, or not being as good as a person or another, or feeling “un”special because of a lack of attention online or offline and basically feeling inferior to others.

Inferiority is the antagonist of being the best we can be.

The key is to recognize that we actually don’t need to measure up to anyone other than ourselves. We should not seek to be as good as or better than anyone and we definitely should not seek our worth from other people’s attention, online or offline.

Earl Nightingale is one of my favorite inspirational speaker and thinker. So in today’s post, I wanted to share with you what he said about inferiority from his audio about self esteem.

People have an inferiority complex because they compare themselves to others.

Everyone is inferior in some areas and superiour in others. So a well adjusted person does not get bothered if someone is better than them in something. Inferiority and superioirity are reverse sides of the same coin. The coin itself is spurious.

You are neither … you are simply you. You as a personality are not in competition with any other personality because no one is like you. You are unique and no other person is supposed to be like you. God did not create one person and said this is it, he made each person unique.

We are all different and nothing is by accident.

Your job is to know yourself and like yourself.

You will accept the things you cannot do and appreciate the things you can do and accept yourself as one of a kind.

(Earl Nightingale)

During this blessed month, I ask god to give us a true perspective of ourselves and the ability to see the good in ourselves and be 100% original!

 

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12 Ramadan 2016: Change *Signal*

Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. – Earl Nightingale

RLI heard an interview with a *now* coach and consultant who was asked why he left his previous prominent function which was well paid, highly respected and prestigious. His answer was simple, he did not feel that he could not serve well in that role.

WOW! He could not serve well …

We are commonly guided that it is time to change a job or role we hold or responsibility we have when we feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc… but in this interview, it is when we do not feel like we are serving well.

This means that if we are in a job or carry out a responsibility and we do not feel like we are serving others in a way that suits us and in the greatest way possible, then we are or we will eventually feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc…

In this Ramadan, and in these blessed days, it is not a bad idea to take stock of how we spend our time between jobs and responsibilities and identify where are not serving well … and either let go or change our mindset. For example, as parents our responsibilities includes taking care of our kids, and while we cannot let go of that responsibility, we can start look a this role as a role of service and focus on doing our best in it to revive motivation.

 

 

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26 Ramadan 2015: Today is Life … Tomorrow is?

“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh. ― A.A. Milne

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Like the dandelion, we might be here today, but there is no guarantee for tomorrow.

I truly did not see how this was a character trait in my mom until she sadly passed away.

When I reflected on all her behaviors and actions throughout, let us say the last 10 years, I could quickly see that she never relied or believed that she could see the next day.

She always did things NOW.

When she wanted to speak to someone, she did it NOW.

When she wanted to buy something for someone, she did it NOW.

When she wanted anything … it was always NOW.

And while I sadly thought it was perfectionist tendencies, it was actually her not relying on what tomorrow brought.

I tried to implement this learning in my own life in the past two months and quickly saw her point.

If I delayed, I always paid another price to that delay, be it pressure, inconvenience or simply missing out on an opportunity to do good or an opportunity that would have benefited me.

The reality is we can’t guarantee tomorrow.

If my mom could pass away from the flu, we could pass away from anything at any moment.

My mom taught me …

to be NOW, to do NOW, to think NOW or else the best can pass you by

 

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3 Ramadan 2015: Think of Death to Truly Live

To not think of dying, is to not think of living. – Jan Arden

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One of the greatest lessons learned from my mother is that death is always near.

Most people see this as a negative attitude, but in fact, it is the most positive one I could see out of all the reflections I had upon my mother’s death.

She was young and she suddenly left us based on a reason that was beyond simple, a flu.

I tend to wonder at times, did she know she was leaving us soon? Did she do this and that because she felt something? Did she say this or that because she will miss us or wanted to prepare us for this moment?

The reality is that she didn’t know … and the reality is that we all don’t know. Quite scary actually to be so exposed.

So looking back at my mom’s life, I thought to myself,

to imagine death to be so near is to live.

Remembering death is to ensure that:

  • nothing is left unsaid;
  • we are a source of comfort for those we love;
  • generosity is an unspoken rule with all; poor and rich, young and old, stranger and friend;
  • not everything is taken so personally and when in doubt, clarity is sought;
  • every opportunity to do something good or share one’s knowledge is an opportunity not to be missed;
  • our talents that god gave us are known and are used as extensively as possible in building our world today and tomorrow;
  • beauty is recognized everywhere and in everything;
  • we seek what will help us accomplish our main goals for living; and
  • life priorities are clear.

Life is balanced for those who constantly remember death – doing for this world what is needed to survive with dignity – and doing for the hereafter to find peace in the most perfect abode a person can have.

Life – we live, but death – is a certainty.

 

 

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29 Ramadan 2014: Reflection and In Memory

“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo.
“So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

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Death is so fascinating … both positive and negative … and in all cases, a reality. Death is a ‘right’ that each one of us will pass, a ‘transition’ onto the next life and a ‘return’ to our creator, our lord.

This Ramadan was exceptionally unique as I lost a dear, young uncle of mine on the 27th of Ramadan, i.e. a couple of days ago. Death, especially of a loved one, brings much reflection and thought. My uncle was one of my biggest “blog fans” who followed and enjoyed my ramadan thoughts throughout the past 9 years and today, this last entry for Ramadan 2014, is dedicated to him.

The first reflection upon his death is that we are all given this short time, and instead of today’s chaos – rushing, pushing, stressing – one MUST find calm and find a way to limit exposure to provision related stresses and focus on what is important long term; faith and good deeds. Death of any loved one comes to put an immediate stop in order to take a moment to look, reflect and ask, ‘am I walking in the right direction?’ and ‘am I doing the best I can in the time I am given?’.

The other reflection is related to how different people’s lives begin and end, and how sometimes it is not what we did that matters, but how we responded, and how we were with others and with god. No one is perfect, but like any precious life, his included a few reflections which I share some with you here.

Some people work night and day to be loved by people by reading self-help books, my uncle had a constant smile.

Some people work day and night to feel loved, my uncle did it by being his old parents’ friend.

Many people work hard in prayer for salvation, my uncle found it in patience while being really ill.

… On family:

“Spend as much time as possible with your family uncle, spend your money on them and travel with them, they are all you have”

… On money:

“Money is important uncle, but only enough. Have a home, have a car, have some savings but spend the rest, for there may come a time where you have money, but you can’t physically spend it or you have money, which does not do you any good”

… On career:

“Career is important as a source of money, but what matters uncle is that you do what you enjoy and do not depend on a ‘job’ to give you that. Find your own way and source of income if you can, but keep it clear, simple and right. Be clear on how you want to spend your days”

… On health:

“Be healthy uncle, but healthy to live well but know, that you might eat organic and still get sick. You might exercise and still get sick. Enjoy your life while you are healthy”

… On time:

“You want to do something? Do it today, don’t wait because the opportunity will definitely go”

Leaving the best advice to last which is my personal favorite  … On destiny:

“No one will leave this earth uncle before he or she lives out their complete destiny. Those you think will die first, may die last and those you think will die last, may die first. You never know when is your time but you will live out all that has been pre-ordained for you and you cannot flee it, you just have to live it”

Dear Uncle ….

“I love you every day. And now I will miss you every day.” – Mitch Albom

and most importantly …

God is ever so kind, merciful and generous even during such times

which bring many many many blessings and learnings

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