9 Ramadan 2017: We are all special

Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world…if you do so, you are insulting yourself. ― Bill Gates

One of the causes of desperation is a worry about not measuring up, or not being as good as a person or another, or feeling “un”special because of a lack of attention online or offline and basically feeling inferior to others.

Inferiority is the antagonist of being the best we can be.

The key is to recognize that we actually don’t need to measure up to anyone other than ourselves. We should not seek to be as good as or better than anyone and we definitely should not seek our worth from other people’s attention, online or offline.

Earl Nightingale is one of my favorite inspirational speaker and thinker. So in today’s post, I wanted to share with you what he said about inferiority from his audio about self esteem.

People have an inferiority complex because they compare themselves to others.

Everyone is inferior in some areas and superiour in others. So a well adjusted person does not get bothered if someone is better than them in something. Inferiority and superioirity are reverse sides of the same coin. The coin itself is spurious.

You are neither … you are simply you. You as a personality are not in competition with any other personality because no one is like you. You are unique and no other person is supposed to be like you. God did not create one person and said this is it, he made each person unique.

We are all different and nothing is by accident.

Your job is to know yourself and like yourself.

You will accept the things you cannot do and appreciate the things you can do and accept yourself as one of a kind.

(Earl Nightingale)

During this blessed month, I ask god to give us a true perspective of ourselves and the ability to see the good in ourselves and be 100% original!


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6 Ramadan 2017: Destiny

What’s meant to be will always find a way – Trisha Yearwood

Before you continue reading, let me set the foundation of this post, we each have a destiny pre-ordained for us in that it includes what will and will not come our way during our lifetimes. If you don’t believe in destiny, this post is not for you.

Definitely one of the most powerful realizations that neutralizes feelings of despair is remembering that we all have a destiny. While we have the freedom to make decisions, the events that befall us are meant to befall us. The events that miss us, are meant to miss us.

No one in the world can expose us to what we are not meant to be exposed to. Similarly, no one in the world can protect us from what we are meant to be exposed to. So what is the best option to take? Just accept it and think about what you can do to reduce the negative effects and boost the positive ones.

You are meant to not be generating an income at this time. However, you are meant to boost your skills for an upcoming opportunity that will provide you with an income you never dreamed of.

You are meant to not have perfect health. However, you are meant to work with it and lean new ways to deal with it that will help others in the future be it in the form of advice or book because you have all the skills to do that.

You are meant to not feel stable in either your job or place of living. However, you are meant to discover a new job and a new place of living because you will be provided with opportunities to be the best that you can be.

Destiny … accept it, deal with it, and keep moving, no need to despair.



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3 Ramadan 2017: The Nature of Life

There are good days and there are bad days, this is one of them. – Lawrence Welk

Despair is often rooted in a mismatch between expectations and reality. We despair when reality does not “fall into place”.

While we can try to manage our expectations in every situation and case to ensure that they better align with reality, the truth is that it is too hard to maintain.

It has long been shared by elders in various societies that life is a journey of ups and downs. A good day, a bad day. A happy moment, a sad moment. A challenge, an ease. And so forth.

So if our expectation is inline with this reality about life, we could keep despair in check knowing that difficult times will not last forever, and while good times are to be celebrated, they also will not last forever and our job is to maneuver both with the mantra to,

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. – Albert Einstein


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1 Ramadan 2017: No to Despair

“The greatest hazard of all, losing one’s self, can occur very quietly in the world, as if it were nothing at all. No other loss can occur so quietly; any other loss … is sure to be noticed.” ― Søren Kierkegaard

Welcome to another year and another 30 day journey with Ramadan Living!

Between negativity, loss and crises … the theme this year was not too hard to choose. Between making it real and between no to despair, I chose no to despair to bring everything that is hope and everything that is real, i.e. blessings that we do not always see.

On this first day of Ramadan 2017, I pray that we are all showered with god’s blessings, mercy and love and more importantly, we recognize them and see that there is no need to despair and that desperation leads to nothing but more desperation.

Happy ramadan !!!

Get ready for the start of another lovely journey through Ramadan!


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29 Ramadan 2016: Go through it

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. – Franklin D. Roosevelt

RLWhatever the fear is … whatever you worry about … whatever fears that others try to push on us … let us go through it.

I originally wanted to say that we should try overcome it or ignore it or look beyond it but in fact, I think going through it, i.e. recognizing it, analyzing it, choosing a position and acting to dispel the fear within ourselves, is the most effective way forward for humanity.

It is the only way that helps us see truth from lies and dispel strategies to control likes and dislikes to freedom to experience the beautiful aspects of life that fear rips away from us.

Today … I ask god … in the last blessed night of this glorious month, to help us recognize our fears and see them as fears and not as truths. I ask god to help us go through these fears without letting them stop us from living the best life we can.

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27 Ramadan 2016: STOP IT!!!!

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. – Brian Tracy

I am tired of it … both if I do it and if others do.

We have limited time on earth, how can we waste valuable time that some don’t have on empty complaints !

Yes! Empty complaints, no matter how sad they may be, as complaining is a mask for nothing but lack of decision making or movement even if it is a decision to do nothing.

Enough is enough! 

Following from the last post, we are not helpless! It is time to take action.

Get angry, be upset, feel sad, but understand that you have more choices than you think and let us ask ourselves … what is the lesson here? Is it something I did? Something I didn’t do? What would I do next time … and move on.

May we be grateful … may we be grateful … may we be grateful.

Use what god as given you in gratefulness … in doing good … in making the world a better place!


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26 Ramadan 2016: Always a Solution

Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it. – Niels Bohr

RLI always told my child that each and every problem had a solution and that there was no reason to feel helpless or crippled.

Even when all doors seem closed, we still have the door of god and supplication to turn to, meaning that there is ALWAYS a solution.

Of course, somewhere in between, I experienced a period in time when I  forgot this fact and I slowly started to slip into helplessness, sadness, feeling difficulty, negativity, and anger.

Then again, I observe my child go through some of their challenges and as I spoke the same “lecture” … I was actually reminding myself of the truth.

Then as I changed perspectives again and decided to seek solutions when problems occur, the sense of positivity and energy is beyond wonder.

On this blessed night, I pray that all of you (and I ) are always reminded of the power we have been given in our own lives, seeking solutions within the problems we are faced with without feeling helpless nor hopeless.



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23 Ramadan 2016: What better giving than inspiration

The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do. – Kobe Bryant

RLWe always hear it from others, giving is far more effective in bringing in positivity and hope in one’s life than anything else.

No therapist, exercise, retreat, shopping or whatever other mean to self satisfaction can impact one’s life the way giving does.

Typically, giving is seen in the form of charity and social work, but in fact giving doesn’t have to be further than your own home.

Give others hope … give others inspiration … give them solutions … give them options … give them something … something to make life’s challenges and tribulation feel easier.

In these blessed days, I ask god to make us keys to goodness in every aspect of our own and other people’s lives.



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21 Ramadan 2016: Courage

You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of instance courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery, and I promise you something great will come of it. – Benjamin Mee


If one had a choice between courage and perseverance, I would imagine that courage trumps the card.

You see perseverance gets us through good times, bad times, challenges, opportunities, and life more generally, but what gets us to recognize these times, challenges and opportunities is courage and as a result, have wisdom in how we approach these matters.

Without courage, we succumb to irrational fears and worries that make it difficult to see what and where opportunities lie. Without courage, we might see the good times as bad or the bad times as good. Without courage, challenges take over us instead of us taking over the challenges and brushing past them.

At some point, saying yes to everything was the big thing … today, having courage is.

During these bless days, may we find the courage to hope, wish and ask god for opportunities and dreams that make us the best we can be for ourselves, our families and humanity.


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18 Ramadan 2016: Cross that bridge when you get there

If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever. – Dalai Lama XIV

RLSometimes all we need to do is breath … be silent … and wait it out.

Why do we now feel we have to control the past, the present and the future?

Why can’t we let go and think positive and believe that we can surely handle anything that comes our way in the future?

Let us not overly dramatize things and let us just take things as they come with no problem too big to handle.

I keep today’s post short because the quote says it all. All I would add is a prayer –

may god, in this blessed month and as we get closer to the last 10 days, bless us with the enjoyment of today and the benefit of the now, leaving tomorrow to god’s infinite wisdom


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