13 Ramadan 2017: Despair, Criticism and Failure

Do not let arrogance go to your head and despair to your heart; do not let compliments go to your head and criticisms to your heart; do not let success go to your head and failure to your heart.― Roy T. Bennett

What I liked about this quote is how it ultimately presents three key facts when it comes to despair.

The first is that despair is set in the heart. This explains why it is more challenging to let go of the negative feelings that come with despair for if it was rationality, we could logically limit its’ effects on our lives.

The second is that criticisms often negatively affect our hearts leading to despair even if they are neither justified nor warranting feelings of despair in our lives.

The third is that we sometimes take failure so seriously, it affects the state of our hearts in feelings of loss, and despair sets in.

So while criticism and failure does give us feelings of sadness and disappointment, maybe engaging our rationality is a way through to prevent these feelings from taking over our hearts and setting us in on a path of despair.



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12 Ramadan 2016: Change *Signal*

Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. – Earl Nightingale

RLI heard an interview with a *now* coach and consultant who was asked why he left his previous prominent function which was well paid, highly respected and prestigious. His answer was simple, he did not feel that he could not serve well in that role.

WOW! He could not serve well …

We are commonly guided that it is time to change a job or role we hold or responsibility we have when we feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc… but in this interview, it is when we do not feel like we are serving well.

This means that if we are in a job or carry out a responsibility and we do not feel like we are serving others in a way that suits us and in the greatest way possible, then we are or we will eventually feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc…

In this Ramadan, and in these blessed days, it is not a bad idea to take stock of how we spend our time between jobs and responsibilities and identify where are not serving well … and either let go or change our mindset. For example, as parents our responsibilities includes taking care of our kids, and while we cannot let go of that responsibility, we can start look a this role as a role of service and focus on doing our best in it to revive motivation.



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6 Ramadan 2016: Assertive Living

Let the first act of every morning be to make the following resolve for the day:

– I shall not fear anyone on Earth.
– I shall fear only God.
– I shall not bear ill will toward anyone.
– I shall not submit to injustice from anyone.
– I shall conquer untruth by truth. And in resisting untruth, I shall put up with all suffering.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

A key aspect of making it count is …

doing what we want, when we want, as we want, without causing harm be it intentionally or unintentionally to anyone else.


What we want is key to happiness in life.

What we want is what our heart, mind and soul desire from our short time on earth.

What we want is something god has inspired in our hearts.

What we want is what we seek from this life to the next.

I know people who are 70 and still don’t know what they want and if they do, they don’t know how to go about living it and going for it.

It is time to stop wasting time, it is time to stop making excuses, it is time to stop waiting for the right moment …. it IS time to be assertive!

Fear no one!

Don’t pay so much attention to what others are doing!

Focus on you!

Speak up!

Have grit!

Go out there … escape to a life fulfilling an inspiration that has been planted in your heart long before you were even born.



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3 Ramadan 2016: Dream Beyond …

All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose. – Brian Tracy


Are you feeling lazy? Do you know what you need to do and want to do but can’t seem to do it? Are you getting frustrated with yourself and your lack of progress?

One respected scholar gives us the answer to these questions …

not having a big enough goal

… Earl Nightingale said the same thing too.

Combining information from both speakers I came up with the following 5 key tips on moving forward:

  1. Focus on, and be honest about, how you can serve others with what you know or do best
  2. Have a goal that benefits others with simplicity
  3. Like a big umbrella, make your goal a far-reaching goal that short-term goals can fit under
  4. Have the courage to speak up and ask for what you want from others
  5. Surround yourself or be associated with other dreamers as well

What is key for all these? Belief …

… in god and that he helps whenever he is called upon;

… that god can help us move mountains if we are sincere in our intention; and most importantly,

… that working on benefitting others is in itself a benefit to oneself.

Let us make it count but living a life with purpose beyond our desires, personal benefit and satisfaction.



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8 Ramadan 2015: Positivity in Action

Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow. – Helen Keller


Mom was a bundle of positive energy – nothing was impossible.

You want to do something? Do it! She would say.

You want to go somewhere? Go! She would say.

Worried that something was impossible? Try! She would say.

It can actually be annoying at times especially when one truly doesn’t feel up for it. But the truth is, she was absolutely right.

Why the negativity?

Do! Go! Try!

Our time is limited here, why wait and worry? Just move and do and if we get no for an answer, we try something else. No, is not a “risk”! It is simply an answer nudging us to “try something else” which may bring us much much more than expected.

Setback? No problem – THINK of another way!

Helpless? Do something!

Worried? Get up and move!

Upset? Clarify! 

The question is though, is positivity limited to action? What about words?

I would say a bit of both but not as we typically think.

I have met a lot of people with a lot of positive words, and while this is good and has a positive effect on others, it doesn’t necessarily mean that this person is positive. It may mean that this person knows how to influence and bring others into positivity but …

the key to positivity is action.

You want to see what positive looks like?

It is definitely not complaining and beating around the bush … they are moving, doing, finishing, calling, answering, asking … not today … not tomorrow … everyday … all with a smile.

My mom was DEFINITELY positive.


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23 Ramadan 2014: Comouflage

“Sometimes God allows what he hates to accomplish what he loves.” – Joni Eareckson Tada


It is interesting to hear those who do not believe in God ask ‘if god exists, why would he then let all these bad things and global suffering happen?’ ummm, I don’t know, but what I do know is that if one truly believes in god then one believes in his ‘all-wise’ attribute and puts trust in him, so my answer would be ‘there must a good reason beyond our comprehension and all we need to be aware of is our role in the good and our role in the bad ensuring that one always chooses to do good’.

There is no sense in attributing bad qualities to god, for it would mean that none of us would have any hope for a better day, a brighter day and a day where all is right, this would only make us more depressed and unable to make any good decisions to help those around us and be the best that we can be. The sheer knowledge and belief that all this suffering happens for a ‘reason’ makes one remain firm on the path to excellence, compassion, love and mercy to all others. The sheer knowledge and belief that all this suffering happens for a ‘reason’ makes one know that where there is destruction there is also growth soon afterwards.

May we be able to see beyond the headlines and ‘camouflage’ and see that the only thing we are responsible for is to believe and do good … believe and do good … believe and do good …

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14 Ramadan 2014: Decide to Decide

“Sometimes, making the wrong choice is better than making no choice. You have the courage to go forward, that is rare. A person who stands at the fork, unable to pick, will never get anywhere.” – Terry Goodkind


We all face indecisive moments and contrary to what most people think, we are indecisive for genuinely good reasons, it is not always lack of confidence or weakness. The question is however, how does one move beyond this phase that is filled with unknowns, fears, questions, literally putting us to a complete halt, unable to decide and unable to understand why one cannot decide.

A book that I have read for years and go back to every once in a while is Susan Jeffers (1987) ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway’. She says that in a moment of decision, there is no consequences, only experiences which looking back at one’s own life, one would see that these consequences led to either some great learning that led to a future benefit or led directly to another benefit. So if every decision is seen as a winning decision, the fear goes down, decisions taken on face value waiting to see how it unfolds. It is difficult, but she says it can be done and this is how I understood it.

In this Ramadan, I call on myself first and then you to make a decision today … today, can be the day that we make a decision that will shape the next chapter in our lives. And if not today, let it be tomorrow, but let us decide to decide.

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1 – 5 Ramadan 2014: A New Beginning

Welcome dear readers to the first post in Ramadan 2014!

First of all, apologies for the delay due to travels in the beginning of Ramadan this year.

This year’s theme is reflective of much needed positivity … covering Simplicity – Thankfulness – Humility … and with this, this is a quote worth sharing wishing you a great beginning of this holy month where we can selfishly take time for ourselves, wasting no time for useless activities and information and instead, spend time learning, praying, doing good and asking god almighty for the best for ourselves and all of Ramadanhumanity.

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life.
Be happy now.
Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future.
Think how really precious is the time you have to spend,
whether it’s at work or with your family.
Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.
– Earl Nightingale

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27 Ramadan 2013: Hope

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. – Martin Luther King, Jr.


We have a very short post today … a post about hope …

… for ourselves in that we continue to improve in seeking “serenity, courage and wisdom”

… for others in that we continue to aid, and not be a barrier, in their own improvement in seeking “serenity, courage and wisdom”

… for all that we find what it is we are seeking in these last few precious nights in this blessed month

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26 Ramadan 2013: Glad Tidings

Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters. – Albert Einstein


Glad tidings to the truthful …  glad tidings to those who are true to themselves and others.

We do not actually have the right to give glad tidings to anyone for we do not control anything in life, including the start and end of it. However, we have been given guidance through God’s holy books that give stories of those who were honest and truthful to themselves and others. In most stories, these people are ridiculed, made fun of, mocked and teased because of insecurities or fears or secrets others wanted to hide behind. In all stories, the truthful ones emerged a winners both in life and hereafter.

Today, we aim to uplift those who live truth, first setting themselves free of chains of the past, dishonesty and followship, then gaining knowledge to validate and understand the truth, and later living it without judging others, until one day all is revealed.

Joy to those who have been bullied in school and in life …

Joy to those who have stood firmly on the truth while others make fun of them …

Joy to those who have not been supported in their career or choices in life …

Joy to those who are rarely celebrated by others for their success.

And sad it is, for those who may never see truth even if presented to them on a silver plate or worse, sad it is for those who have seen truth and rejected it.

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