Observe moderation in deeds and understand that none amongst you can attain salvation because of his deeds alone. They said: Allah’s (God’s) Messenger, not even you? Thereupon he said: Not even I, but that Allah (God) should wrap me in His Mercy and Grace. (in Muslim)
Repentance means you change your mind so deeply that it changes you – Bruce Wilkinson
So far, during this blessed month, I have tried to work around and maneuver all the negatives that keep bringing us all down.
So I started out from relaxing and taking things as they go, accepting the realities, being positive, relying and thinking good of god who pre-ordained our destinies and I came to one place that I realised to be the core of everything.
I realised that we all do wrong and forget … yet when god does not immediately give us what we want, we never forget! It starts to consume our everyday and we nag, nag, and nag … and that is when I realised that acceptance is directly linked to repentance for all the things we did or said that we usually forget about either hurting ourselves or hurting others.
May god open for us all doors of repentance so we may truly accept things and not rush that which has been delayed, or delay that which has been rushed for us, and truly take things as they come.
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No matter what storm you face, you need to know that God loves you. He has not abandoned you. – Franklin Graham
We generally think that god loves us when good things happen in our lives; we feel special and feel blessed. We feel that god loves us and that he must be satisfied with who we are and the good things we strive to do, until … we experience tough moments or despite our best efforts, we fall short in doing good.
Feelings of disappointment start to creep up and we start to feel God does not love us, or has given up on us. With this feeling comes discouragement and negativity. With this feeling comes a lack of appreciation of positive instances and lack of acceptance of negative instances in our lives.
I experienced this the other day when I was not able to wake up for the night meal before starting the next fasting day. Despite taking practical steps to ensure I wake up, I was not able to enjoy a nice meal at a time during the night that is peaceful in one of the most blessed months. My immediate reaction? Complete negativity and feeling of discouragement.
I started to think, maybe acceptance is not only about accepting all that happens to us, but is about accepting that every single small or big thing that happens in our lives is underpinned by god’s love and not disappointment. I believe that this wonderful underpinning is the key to acceptance in all areas of our lives. As long as our intentions are good, every single second in our lives on earth is a single second where god showers us with his love irrespective of how we determine our second to be, good or bad.
May we always see our lives as they are, engrossed in god’s love.
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He foresaw my every fall, my every sin, my every backsliding; yet, nevertheless, fixed His heart upon me. ― Arthur W. Pink
As we start the last third of this blessed month, I think of god’s mercy and love that enters our hearts when all else seems dark around us.
I think of god’s fairness in giving us all a set of strengths and talents that help us live a meaningful and fulfilling life.
I think of god’s wisdom and knowledge that allows certain tribulations to take place yet gives us other matters that give us hope and positivity for the future.
I think of god’s kindness that no matter how long we take to count our many blessings, we would never feel like we captured them all.
I think of god’s beauty as I look around and see the beautiful flowers, the magnificent skies, the chirping of the birds and the many beauty colors and designs they have together with the butterflies.
I think of god’s forgiveness as no matter how far we go and how much we divert from doing good in this world, god is always ready for us to come back and live our best lives for ourselves and for others as well.
With an open heart and an open mind, I ask god to uplift us all and give us yet the greatest days ahead with blessings, love and peace of mind and heart.
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God will never give you anything you can’t handle, so don’t stress. – Kelly Clarkson
As we complete the first third of this blessed month, I can’t help but think of god’s role when it comes to despair.
In addition to god telling us in the various holy books that he is always with us and does not give us what we cannot bear, we only have to look closely to see this sign within ourselves.
Think of the most difficult times in your life when you thought you were never going to be able to “make it through” or get out of a situation, have you noticed that you always do? Have you noticed that when you look back you think, “I had everything I needed to get through this one”?
God is always here and he is always listening to us and he knows us better than we know ourselves. Knowing that gives me comfort that there is no need to despair, we just need faith that …
this too shall pass.
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By changing nothing, nothing changes.
Today, on the last day of this blessed month, something weird happened … a lot of wrong things.
I was impatient … I procrastinated … I rushed … I was annoyed … I disregarded others … it was seriously a weird day.
I say weird because of the sheer irony.
After 29 days of trying to be a better person than I was before Ramadan, and after 29 days of recognizing my weaknesses with plans in place for how to deal with them after Ramadan…
Here I was on the last day doing THE THINGS I SAID I WOULD NOT DO AFTER RAMADAN!!!!!!
Then a dear friend reminded me that that in itself was a blessing.
As difficult as it was, I started to see that … I started to see that it was god’s way, within the blessed month, to reiterate the changes I need to make in my life.
… patience, priority, gentleness.
God was, is and will always be merciful.
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The more you go with the flow of life and surrender the outcome to God, and the less you seek constant clarity, the more you will find that fabulous things start to show up in your life. ― Mandy Hale
Have you tried to let go? Like really let go?
I am not talking about not moving forward or problem solving or setting goals, I am talking about doing these things without holding on to a specific expectation or outcome … truly letting go.
I thought I did … until I realized I didn’t … and then when I really needed help … I did that, and the results were amazing.
How would you feel if you knew, you just knew, that everything was going to turn out exactly how it should and in the best outcome for you?
How would you feel if you knew that no outcome will be bad no matter how it looks?
How would you feel if you knew that if you really needed help, there was always – and I mean always – someone there?
Exactly! You feel invincible!
Nothing beats relying on god, and I mean truly relying on god where you take the steps necessary to complete a task to fulfill a dream without any hesitation or fear but at the same time knowing that no matter what steps you take, the outcome may be totally different but that it will always be better than what you had planned.
It is a tough one but it sure is worth a try … you will not be disappointed for he is always around, always seeing, always protecting and always providing.
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Our heavenly Father understands our disappointment, suffering, pain, fear, and doubt. He is always there to encourage our hearts and help us understand that He’s sufficient for all of our needs. When I accepted this as an absolute truth in my life, I found that my worrying stopped. – Charles Stanley
Disappointment, fear, pain, doubt etc … a very dangerous bag of emotions, nevertheless, it can happen, and does happen, to anyone.
I always saw my mom as a fighter – she fought all sorts of challenges in her life, from health, wealth to relationships. Again, as we all do at some point or another.
For some reason however, after 20 days of reflecting on her life throughout this blessed month, I have arrived at quite an interesting hurdle and wonder, what did these challenges do to her on the inside?
I think I know what it did on the outside, and I can only guess what it did to her on the inside, but I can’t for sure answer this question – and I am not sure if I ever will, as she is no longer here to answer.
Unfortunately, I do not myself have an answer to this, and instead, leave the question out there for you to think about and for god to reveal the answer to us during this blessed third of Ramadan, and in an ever so timely fashion, the third of salvation:
What to do when you wake up one day and find that you are carrying this bag?
Where do you go?
How do you move?
I think the answer lies around hope, belief, resilience, etc… but it remains unclear.
I hope that by the end of this month, and whatever further reflections I have of my mother and with god’s help, we all can answer these questions.
At the start of these blessed 10 days, I ask god to give us the patience to see his signs unravel as he decides on our affairs in what benefits us.
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The most important lesson that I have learned is to trust God in every circumstance. Lots of times we go through different trials and following God’s plan seems like it doesn’t make any sense at all. God is always in control and he will never leave us. – Allyson Felix
At the end of the day, reflecting on my mom’s life, my life and life of others, the only one you can trust with anything is god.
Some may see this as a negative view and that we should trust others.
I say on the contrary, why should we even be responsible for judging others trustworthy or not, for most people move and take actions based on thoughts and emotions that is only specific to them and their trustworthiness can change based on the situation.
At the end of the day, we need to trust god who will organize all our affairs irrespective of who comes our way – trustworthy or not.
Having said that, when we do not judge others’ trustworthiness, it does not mean we negatively suspect everybody either, we just accept people as they are.
We think, we do, ask those we believe have the knowledge and have our best interests at heart to help us in solving our problems and carry out our needs … we neither depend on or beg anyone to help us.
The lovely thing about god is that when we need help, the right people often come into the picture, we just have to be aware of this natural life phenomena.
My mom taught me to …
take the means and ask when we need information and then trust only in god
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toys and many other things,and to think about it you should thank people when
they say or give something nice to you even though your sick or tired because
god gives you good points especially in ramadan,because imagine your walking
and someone comes and says ”I have a gift for you”you feel happy but you don’t
say thank you that makes the person who gave you the gift feels like you didn’t
like the gift then that person gives you more and more gifts and you never say
thank you god gets angry for 2 resons 1. because you didn’t say thank you
2.because you didn’t thank god.Do you know why?Because god told them to
buy you a gift.Do you want to know the best way to have a happy life?
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