19 Ramadan 2017: It is time …

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. – Steve Jobs

We all know the state of the world these days, what we didn’t need is another tragedy. We woke up to the story of a burning building in London where many are believed to be in critical state or have moved on from this life. May those who have left their families and loved ones behind rest in peace.

What it did get me thinking about is how something like this awakens something in one’s soul that tackles despair…we have a limited time on earth and if it was our turn tomorrow, what have we left behind?

A good reputation? Helpful advice? Some charity? Knowledge? Anger? Materialistic behavior? Shallow advice? Envy? Greed?

We are what we leave behind … and we leave behind our words, our money, our work, our families, and our friendships … so are they in the condition we would like to leave it in?

We might not achieve what we hope to achieve but at least we can try and people know we tried.

It is time … it is time to be free of fears and expectations that are unjustified.

It is time … to go after what we want and share it with others.

It is time … to enjoy each other’s time while we still can.

It is time … to help those in need in whatever way we can.

It is time … to choose our words carefully.

It is time … to commit to excellence in whatever we set our minds to.

It is time …

 

 

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16 Ramadan 2017: The Real You

Starve the ego, feed the soul – Unknown

As we approach the last days of Ramadan, it is worth looking back at the last 16 days and use the next couple of days to prepare for what it is we want, we hope, and we seek for the next year and beyond.

The last 10 days are special because those who fast this month believe that there is one special night that is bestowed on people who are genuine in their actions of worship, love and charity bringing great blessings with it where angels surround earth, the skies and the heavens above. It is also in this special night that our destinies for the next year are revealed, may they be great.

Reflection is key to this preparation as we have had 16 days to really see who we really are as fasting and the fasting month expose our souls in ways that are often more challenging day to day as we are busy at work, home, friends, and life more generally.

How were you with people? Did you gossip? Did you hurt someone with your words or actions?

How did you feel about people? Envious? Hoping for them what you hope for yourself?

How were you with your family? Your children? Were you angry? Were you kind and merciful?

How were you with money? Did you waste it? Did you share it with others through gifts and generosity?

How were you with work? Did you complete tasks with excellence?

How were you with god? Did you seek forgiveness for the *not so proud* things you did? Did you ask for all the things you want?

Ramadan is not about limiting food and drink, ramadan is about seeing who we truly are and working on what needs to improve and thanking god for the lovely qualities we have.

 

 

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15 Ramadan 2017: Control

You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. – Brian Tracy

I spoke about destiny in an earlier post, in a larger sense, it is about letting go of events and matters in our lives that we cannot control.

Whether it is a child who is adamant about disrespecting, or a person determined to bring negativity to others, or natural disasters or acts of war, or even a bankrupted employer, these are all matters that we cannot control whatsoever.

What we can control however, is how we respond to them and more specifically, responding assertively to events out of our reach or influence.

The first step is to never blame oneself.

The second is to to recognize that just because a certain undesirable event is happening,  it does not mean that I am a victim of it without any say in how I can reduce its impact on myself and my loved ones.

The third step is to seek the learning and the change that is meant to happen within me as a result of me experiencing or witnessing this event for nothing is by chance.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Reinhold Niebuhr

 

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4 Ramadan 2017: Keep Going

Does anything in nature despair except man? An animal with a foot caught in a trap does not seem to despair. It is too busy trying to survive. It is all closed in, to a kind of still, intense waiting. Is this a key? Keep busy with survival. Imitate the trees. Learn to lose in order to recover, and remember that nothing stays the same for long, not even pain, psychic pain. Sit it out. Let it all pass. Let it go. – May Sarton

If we accept the nature of life, we accept that there will always be low and challenging moments to deal with. What I really liked about this quote though is that it eloquently covers what conscious “action” could be taking place in such moments.

Go on living and wait for such times to pass.

Simply continuing to go about living our lives; eating, drinking, chores, work and focusing on those, we can simply outlive the challenging moments. I am not advocating passive behaviors to conflict and difficulty but a big part of dealing with challenging situations sometimes involves waiting and reacting simply to what requires our immediate action, especially when it comes to other people’s rights, and not let these moments consume our lives.

“This too shall pass”

 

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29 Ramadan 2016: Go through it

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. – Franklin D. Roosevelt

RLWhatever the fear is … whatever you worry about … whatever fears that others try to push on us … let us go through it.

I originally wanted to say that we should try overcome it or ignore it or look beyond it but in fact, I think going through it, i.e. recognizing it, analyzing it, choosing a position and acting to dispel the fear within ourselves, is the most effective way forward for humanity.

It is the only way that helps us see truth from lies and dispel strategies to control likes and dislikes to freedom to experience the beautiful aspects of life that fear rips away from us.

Today … I ask god … in the last blessed night of this glorious month, to help us recognize our fears and see them as fears and not as truths. I ask god to help us go through these fears without letting them stop us from living the best life we can.

 
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26 Ramadan 2016: Always a Solution

Every great and deep difficulty bears in itself its own solution. It forces us to change our thinking in order to find it. – Niels Bohr

RLI always told my child that each and every problem had a solution and that there was no reason to feel helpless or crippled.

Even when all doors seem closed, we still have the door of god and supplication to turn to, meaning that there is ALWAYS a solution.

Of course, somewhere in between, I experienced a period in time when I  forgot this fact and I slowly started to slip into helplessness, sadness, feeling difficulty, negativity, and anger.

Then again, I observe my child go through some of their challenges and as I spoke the same “lecture” … I was actually reminding myself of the truth.

Then as I changed perspectives again and decided to seek solutions when problems occur, the sense of positivity and energy is beyond wonder.

On this blessed night, I pray that all of you (and I ) are always reminded of the power we have been given in our own lives, seeking solutions within the problems we are faced with without feeling helpless nor hopeless.

 

 

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25 Ramadan 2016: True Reliance

The more you go with the flow of life and surrender the outcome to God, and the less you seek constant clarity, the more you will find that fabulous things start to show up in your life. ― Mandy Hale

RLHave you tried to let go? Like really let go?

I am not talking about not moving forward or problem solving or setting goals, I am talking about doing these things without holding on to a specific expectation or outcome … truly letting go.

I thought I did … until I realized I didn’t … and then when I really needed help … I did that, and the results were amazing.

How would you feel if you knew, you just knew, that everything was going to turn out exactly how it should and in the best outcome for you?

How would you feel if you knew that no outcome will be bad no matter how it looks?

How would you feel if you knew that if you really needed help, there was always – and I mean always – someone there?

Exactly! You feel invincible!

Nothing beats relying on god, and I mean truly relying on god where you take the steps necessary to complete a task to fulfill a dream without any hesitation or fear but at the same time knowing that no matter what steps you take, the outcome may be totally different but that it will always be better than what you had planned.

It is a tough one but it sure is worth a try … you will not be disappointed for he is always around, always seeing, always protecting and always providing.

 

 

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24 Ramadan 2016: Be Productive

If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done. ― Bruce Lee

RLYou can sit on the couch all day, watch a movie (or two), have some low fat popcorn, call your favorite people, have a lovely refreshing drink, practice your Chakras, carry out your yoga and meditation moves … anything that is considered relaxation to you, you will eventually realize that it was a waste of time.

I know, I know … you think I am crazy right? You have to relax to re-charge, right?

Actually, to re-charge, you need “charge” from a positive event or accomplishment or experience, and so to re-charge, one must be productive.

Don’t get me wrong, these relaxation activities are great and are worth persuing, if in the least, to enjoy life. HOwever, it is from my experience that eventually, their impact wears out and what remains is what productive activity one took one, especially one that caters to one’s strengths and talents.

As we start the last week of the blessed month, I ask god to give us the health, wealth and spirit to keep moving, keep serving, keep organizing, keep talking, keep steady, keep … keep … keep.

 

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21 Ramadan 2016: Courage

You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of instance courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery, and I promise you something great will come of it. – Benjamin Mee

 

If one had a choice between courage and perseverance, I would imagine that courage trumps the card.

You see perseverance gets us through good times, bad times, challenges, opportunities, and life more generally, but what gets us to recognize these times, challenges and opportunities is courage and as a result, have wisdom in how we approach these matters.

Without courage, we succumb to irrational fears and worries that make it difficult to see what and where opportunities lie. Without courage, we might see the good times as bad or the bad times as good. Without courage, challenges take over us instead of us taking over the challenges and brushing past them.

At some point, saying yes to everything was the big thing … today, having courage is.

During these bless days, may we find the courage to hope, wish and ask god for opportunities and dreams that make us the best we can be for ourselves, our families and humanity.

 

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12 Ramadan 2016: Change *Signal*

Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. – Earl Nightingale

RLI heard an interview with a *now* coach and consultant who was asked why he left his previous prominent function which was well paid, highly respected and prestigious. His answer was simple, he did not feel that he could not serve well in that role.

WOW! He could not serve well …

We are commonly guided that it is time to change a job or role we hold or responsibility we have when we feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc… but in this interview, it is when we do not feel like we are serving well.

This means that if we are in a job or carry out a responsibility and we do not feel like we are serving others in a way that suits us and in the greatest way possible, then we are or we will eventually feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc…

In this Ramadan, and in these blessed days, it is not a bad idea to take stock of how we spend our time between jobs and responsibilities and identify where are not serving well … and either let go or change our mindset. For example, as parents our responsibilities includes taking care of our kids, and while we cannot let go of that responsibility, we can start look a this role as a role of service and focus on doing our best in it to revive motivation.

 

 

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