25 Ramadan 2016: True Reliance

The more you go with the flow of life and surrender the outcome to God, and the less you seek constant clarity, the more you will find that fabulous things start to show up in your life. ― Mandy Hale

RLHave you tried to let go? Like really let go?

I am not talking about not moving forward or problem solving or setting goals, I am talking about doing these things without holding on to a specific expectation or outcome … truly letting go.

I thought I did … until I realized I didn’t … and then when I really needed help … I did that, and the results were amazing.

How would you feel if you knew, you just knew, that everything was going to turn out exactly how it should and in the best outcome for you?

How would you feel if you knew that no outcome will be bad no matter how it looks?

How would you feel if you knew that if you really needed help, there was always – and I mean always – someone there?

Exactly! You feel invincible!

Nothing beats relying on god, and I mean truly relying on god where you take the steps necessary to complete a task to fulfill a dream without any hesitation or fear but at the same time knowing that no matter what steps you take, the outcome may be totally different but that it will always be better than what you had planned.

It is a tough one but it sure is worth a try … you will not be disappointed for he is always around, always seeing, always protecting and always providing.



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14 Ramadan 2016: Cherish them

But she wasn’t around, and that’s the thing when your parents die, you feel like instead of going in to every fight with backup, you are going into every fight alone. ― Mitch Albom

RLJust like in everyday life, I recently had an important career decision to make, and I didn’t know what to do. In my mind, all I saw was difficulty in every possibility.

I thought, I procrastinated, I worried, I complained … just unnecessary fear and unnecessary confusion.

I asked god to show me the way and I got my support from the strangest of people.

Ok, well, it is not that strange, but it was interesting to see that after losing my mom a year ago, I found a sense of support and comfort in my dad.

My dad was always wise and smart but mothers often are the first and main source of support, a role which seems like my dad is slowly assuming.

I can tell you that we don’t only need our parents, but we are never the same without them, it is like losing a part of you that you can never get back, creating a gaping whole that never ever ever closes.

With our parents, we never have to go anywhere alone.

With our parents, we never have to decide alone.

With our parents, we never have to worry or celebrate alone.

With our parents, near or far, close-knit or not, we are NOT alone.

In this Ramadan, I ask god to give all surviving parents a long life full of wisdom and bliss.

In this Ramadan, I ask god to forgive the mistakes of our deceased parents and help us always remember them in our hearts and minds.

Love your parents



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12 Ramadan 2016: Change *Signal*

Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. – Earl Nightingale

RLI heard an interview with a *now* coach and consultant who was asked why he left his previous prominent function which was well paid, highly respected and prestigious. His answer was simple, he did not feel that he could not serve well in that role.

WOW! He could not serve well …

We are commonly guided that it is time to change a job or role we hold or responsibility we have when we feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc… but in this interview, it is when we do not feel like we are serving well.

This means that if we are in a job or carry out a responsibility and we do not feel like we are serving others in a way that suits us and in the greatest way possible, then we are or we will eventually feel restricted, unmotivated, unhappy, not supported etc…

In this Ramadan, and in these blessed days, it is not a bad idea to take stock of how we spend our time between jobs and responsibilities and identify where are not serving well … and either let go or change our mindset. For example, as parents our responsibilities includes taking care of our kids, and while we cannot let go of that responsibility, we can start look a this role as a role of service and focus on doing our best in it to revive motivation.



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26 Ramadan 2015: Today is Life … Tomorrow is?

“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh. ― A.A. Milne


Like the dandelion, we might be here today, but there is no guarantee for tomorrow.

I truly did not see how this was a character trait in my mom until she sadly passed away.

When I reflected on all her behaviors and actions throughout, let us say the last 10 years, I could quickly see that she never relied or believed that she could see the next day.

She always did things NOW.

When she wanted to speak to someone, she did it NOW.

When she wanted to buy something for someone, she did it NOW.

When she wanted anything … it was always NOW.

And while I sadly thought it was perfectionist tendencies, it was actually her not relying on what tomorrow brought.

I tried to implement this learning in my own life in the past two months and quickly saw her point.

If I delayed, I always paid another price to that delay, be it pressure, inconvenience or simply missing out on an opportunity to do good or an opportunity that would have benefited me.

The reality is we can’t guarantee tomorrow.

If my mom could pass away from the flu, we could pass away from anything at any moment.

My mom taught me …

to be NOW, to do NOW, to think NOW or else the best can pass you by


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21 Ramadan 2015: Beauty

Beauty is whatever gives joy. – Edna St. Vincent Millay


I couldn’t have summarized it better than the quote above, beauty was definitely a priority for mom.

Whether it is through beautiful flowers in her garden, or the lovely necklace she wore that brought out the color of her eyes, or the surprise gifts she would constantly give others, or the way she organized and decorated her home, to the big deal she made out of life milestones from weddings, a new baby, birthday, to anniversaries – she was all about beauty.

She was pretty much the first one to remember my grandparents birthdays and anniversary and the first one to be happy for others and lend a helping hand when it came to weddings. It wasn’t always taken in as such, but that was her intent, she genuinely saw beauty in these milestones.

My mom’s grandkids miss her dearly, more than anyone can imagine, why? Because she brought beauty into their lives.

If people came and visited, there was beauty in the way she prepared for their visit.

You should see the favors she prepared for our weddings, until today, I have not seen anyone be so classy, generous and beautiful.

She brought spiritual and emotional beauty to things which was quite infectious.

She also found joy in sharing beauty with others, and that spread so much love around that after she passed away, and two months later, most of the people I know underestimated the beauty she brought into their lives.

My mom taught me that …

there is beauty in everything, and if we can’t see it, we can make things and moments beautiful, not necessarily materially beautiful, but spiritually beautiful



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20 Ramadan 2015: A Dangerous Bag

Our heavenly Father understands our disappointment, suffering, pain, fear, and doubt. He is always there to encourage our hearts and help us understand that He’s sufficient for all of our needs. When I accepted this as an absolute truth in my life, I found that my worrying stopped. – Charles Stanley


Disappointment, fear, pain, doubt etc … a very dangerous bag of emotions, nevertheless, it can happen, and does happen, to anyone.

I always saw my mom as a fighter – she fought all sorts of challenges in her life, from health, wealth to relationships. Again, as we all do at some point or another.

For some reason however, after 20 days of reflecting on her life throughout this blessed month, I have arrived at quite an interesting hurdle and wonder, what did these challenges do to her on the inside?

I think I know what it did on the outside, and I can only guess what it did to her on the inside, but I can’t for sure answer this question – and I am not sure if I ever will, as she is no longer here to answer.

Unfortunately, I do not myself have an answer to this, and instead, leave the question out there for you to think about and for god to reveal the answer to us during this blessed third of Ramadan, and in an ever so timely fashion, the third of salvation:

What to do when you wake up one day and find that you are carrying this bag?

Where do you go?

How do you move?

I think the answer lies around hope, belief, resilience, etc… but it remains unclear.

I hope that by the end of this month, and whatever further reflections I have of my mother and with god’s help, we all can answer these questions.

At the start of these blessed 10 days, I ask god to give us the patience to see his signs unravel as he decides on our affairs in what benefits us.



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Talents (made by a 7 year old child)

Alya3Talents are about what your good at,but not all the time,because talents is from you & god,

because who ever is copying somebody else that is not your talent& your not good

at it,because you find your talent when you look around & this can happen when you are an infant you see something and try it.

let me tell you something, my talent is cooking because I saw my grandmother cooking so I tried

cooking & I was 2 years old & I made a cake,because that was my talent, & you may be any age

& you find talent in the strangest ways,because its like your talent is gardening & your talent is

behind the bush you go there find it but you don’t see it or here it but you do it & when you do

it & your good at it its your talent,& your talent can come on your talent,like you don’t know your

talent is building your talent is in building

but I tell you something when you are born you get your




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Patience when a Loved One Dies (By a 7 year old Granddaughter)

AlyaIt’s hard to live when a loved one dies,because it’s at an end on what a

kind,loving person has done to you.so just say Alhamdurilah (thanks to god) that you saw

her and if you say ”Oh I miss him/her so much oh god bring him/her back

”that person his/her’s life will be very very sad, and its not nice at all

let me tell you how to be patient and cheer you up when a loved one dies

1.write down all the things he/she did and do it

2.dream about her/him and when you go up to god it will happen

3.say Alhamdurilah (thanks to god) you saw him/her for some of your life

4.and always remember his/her’s LOVE





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4 Ramadan 2015: Gratitude

The more often we see the things around us – even the beautiful and wonderful things – the more they become invisible to us. That is why we often take for granted the beauty of this world: the flowers, the trees, the birds, the clouds – even those we love. Because we see things so often, we see them less and less. – Joseph B. Wirthlin

R4Nothing in this world can prepare us for the loss of a loved one. Nothing.

Losing my mom was one thing, but realizing the gap she left behind and the role she filled, was another.

Until today, I cannot comprehend how she was able to fill this gap and be a supportive force not only in my and my family’s life, but in the life of others.

But now I am starting to see some truth, and it is that when someone adds so much value in one’s life, it is usually hard, if not impossible, to see and appreciate the gap(s) they fill because they do it so well.

We all take the closest and dearest people to us for granted.

So, I am not sure if this is something we can actually change, for how can we appreciate something we didn’t realize we had to begin with?

All we could do is our best to seek the beauty in others and the value they add to our lives especially those closest to us, and make it our focus every time we think about them or talk or interact with them. From our kids to our spouses, from our parents to our siblings, from our neighbors to our friends, it covers everyone.

Why is it important? Because to appreciate and be appreciated is a basic human need which would bring happiness and satisfaction to us during the limited period of time we, and they, have on earth.

May god give us the ability to see clearly and appreciate during this blessed month those who touch our lives and hearts in so many ways … before it is too late.




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Eid 2014: Salam and Eeman

“Perhaps it takes a purer faith to praise God for unrealized blessings than for those we once enjoyed or those we enjoy now.” – A.W. Tozer


We started Ramadan 2014 sharing with you our view this year of a Ramadan of … Simplicity, Thankfulness, and Humility …  I hope it was for you as it was for me.

This post is a small thanks to God, the ever-living, self-subsisting, self-existing God upon who we all depend, knowingly or not, for all the blessings that he bestows on us, small and big.

With this, I wish you all a Blessed Eid 2014 in some of the languages of the world …

Eid Kareem …

Eid Mubarak ..

Bajram Barecula …

Mutlu Bayramlar …

Selamat Idul Fitri …

Hari Raya Aidilfitri …

Barka da Sallah …

Maligayang Eid …

Until next year … wishing you all … SALAM (peace) and EEMAN (faith).

… and thanks to god the nurturer and all-merciful (Hamdullillah Rab El 3alameen)

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