You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them. – Desmond Tutu
As much as the last two posts challenged my thinking and approach in life when it comes to death and money, it was this post that really shook me up.
Typing the title was difficult enough, envisioning it was downright painful.
Our immediate families; spouses and kids. Our parents, grandparents and siblings. Our uncles and aunts. They are all part of who we were, who we are, and who we will grow to be.
Yes, we have frusrating moments and moments where we outright have no idea how we ended up related to each other be it in marriage or by blood, but I can tell you that imagining losing any of them is sadness and pain in one package.
I have experienced the loss of grandparents, uncle, aunt, and a parent … what I end up remembering is how they made me feel and how in dealing with them, they were unique to strangers in my life in the small or big way they supported me.
Going through this exercise, and nicely articulated in the above quote, I realised that seeing ourselves as gifts to our famlies as they are to us, we can learn to appreciate every call, experience, memory or even challenge we have with them as a gift to both of us that we learn to accept and one day, come to cherish.
We must learn more about them and their stories and despite what we think, realise that they are, and will be, part of us.
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