10 Ramadan 2018: Acceptance is First

Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it … This will miraculously transform your whole life – Eckhart Tolle

Acceptance may not necessarily point to an end state, but it could also be the starting state when dealing with hardship.

We actually have a similar concept in our faith where when one faces a calamity or receives bad news or is shocked with an unexpected hardship, he or she must first say that “we all belong to god and to him we shall return” and then deal with the pain that comes with it. The faster someone says this, the greater the chances are that he or she will be able to deal with the hardship, in other words, they accept the hardship first and then move accordingly to resolve related issues.

Imagine the opposite case when one first gets shocked, gets sad, gets confused and tries hard to deal with the hardship and to eventually accept it. Much energy is wasted on something that is what it is, so one might as well accept it first and then calmly think about what needs to be done to ease it and hopefully resolve it.

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