2 Ramadan 2018: Trying too hard

Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself ― Leo Tolstoy

In the past year, I have learned that part of acceptance is realising that the only thing that one can truly change is oneself.

While I can genuinely try to change my surrounding reality when maneuvering through the interesting challenges of life, I figured that it was more worth while to think about the options I had within my surrounding reality and work with them instead of holding expectations of change in others and what I now label as “trying too hard”.

So instead of asking how I can change a person or group of people in a particular task, place or situation, I now try to shift my view to what my role is, and related options are, in the change I seek in the task, place or situation that is bothering me.

Having said that, and in a lot of cases, change in others is key to the change in task, place or situation, and this is where acceptance and patience would be more befitting especially when the task, place or situation have a more significant purpose and benefit.

I ask god to give us the ability to shift our view from others to ourselves.

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