Hermes gazed up at the stars. ‘My dear young cousin, if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the eons, it’s that you can’t give up on your family, no matter how tempting they make it. It doesn’t matter if they hate you, or embarrass you, or simply don’t appreciate your genius for inventing the Internet–‘ ― Rick Riordan
This one was an interesting post to write – I couldn’t not write it – because my mom definitely was a role model when it came to establishing and maintaining ties with her extended relatives.
You see, it is not that she went out of her way to do anything grand or superior, but it was the little things she did like calling them, asking about them, providing advice when asked, being happy of them in their good times and listening to them in their tough times. Simple … and basic.
The key you see, is always being in touch, and not necessarily the closest of friends which can only be done based on chemistry and values.
Now, did any of this result in anything spectacular? No, not really. What it do though is prepare her for her last breath on earth knowing that she did her best in maintaining ties of kinship and when asked, she will be ready to answer.
I don’t want to delve too much into why it is important to maintain these ties except to say that god asked us too … and whatever he asks us to do means that it benefits us … and ultimately, these ties are for social stability, i.e. your family should be the first to support emotionally and physically especially in tough times. Of course one has to have the right character for relatives to reach out to them during such times, and no one would know our character unless, again, we were in touch.
Will all relatives appreciate or agree with this approach? No, but does it matter if the intention is good? At the end of day, you will be in touch and all that will do is soften hearts with no expectations.
My mom taught me that …
Keeping in touch is what maintains ties of kinship and all as part of faith
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