To not think of dying, is to not think of living. – Jan Arden
One of the greatest lessons learned from my mother is that death is always near.
Most people see this as a negative attitude, but in fact, it is the most positive one I could see out of all the reflections I had upon my mother’s death.
She was young and she suddenly left us based on a reason that was beyond simple, a flu.
I tend to wonder at times, did she know she was leaving us soon? Did she do this and that because she felt something? Did she say this or that because she will miss us or wanted to prepare us for this moment?
The reality is that she didn’t know … and the reality is that we all don’t know. Quite scary actually to be so exposed.
So looking back at my mom’s life, I thought to myself,
to imagine death to be so near is to live.
Remembering death is to ensure that:
- nothing is left unsaid;
- we are a source of comfort for those we love;
- generosity is an unspoken rule with all; poor and rich, young and old, stranger and friend;
- not everything is taken so personally and when in doubt, clarity is sought;
- every opportunity to do something good or share one’s knowledge is an opportunity not to be missed;
- our talents that god gave us are known and are used as extensively as possible in building our world today and tomorrow;
- beauty is recognized everywhere and in everything;
- we seek what will help us accomplish our main goals for living; and
- life priorities are clear.
Life is balanced for those who constantly remember death – doing for this world what is needed to survive with dignity – and doing for the hereafter to find peace in the most perfect abode a person can have.
Life – we live, but death – is a certainty.
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