14 Ramadan 2014: Decide to Decide

“Sometimes, making the wrong choice is better than making no choice. You have the courage to go forward, that is rare. A person who stands at the fork, unable to pick, will never get anywhere.” – Terry Goodkind


We all face indecisive moments and contrary to what most people think, we are indecisive for genuinely good reasons, it is not always lack of confidence or weakness. The question is however, how does one move beyond this phase that is filled with unknowns, fears, questions, literally putting us to a complete halt, unable to decide and unable to understand why one cannot decide.

A book that I have read for years and go back to every once in a while is Susan Jeffers (1987) ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway’. She says that in a moment of decision, there is no consequences, only experiences which looking back at one’s own life, one would see that these consequences led to either some great learning that led to a future benefit or led directly to another benefit. So if every decision is seen as a winning decision, the fear goes down, decisions taken on face value waiting to see how it unfolds. It is difficult, but she says it can be done and this is how I understood it.

In this Ramadan, I call on myself first and then you to make a decision today … today, can be the day that we make a decision that will shape the next chapter in our lives. And if not today, let it be tomorrow, but let us decide to decide.

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