22 Ramadan 2012: In us … Around us

Negativity sucks away energy. If part of the negativity stems from your attitude or perspective, commit yourself at the beginning of each day and each activity to find something positive in yourself and in others around you. If the people around you are negative and you can’t change that, either remove yourself from the situation or view it simply as one obstacle you face in pursuing your own potential. Stay focused on your own goals and make the best of the situation. – Terry Orlick

The quote above says it all, with a ‘footnote’.

We have faced negativity within us in the past as a reason to halt good ideas or actions we had. However, sometimes we found ourselves confusing lack of preparation, genuineness and/or intention with negativity (fear of the unknown and lack of dependence on god). The risk is that we sometimes tell ourselves that it is simply negativity when in fact, we needed additional work or soul-searching before making a mistake or taking a wrong turn.

Same thing goes for negativity around us. We found ourselves at times confusing confident, genuine advice AND foresight with negativity (low self-esteem or limited experiences and foresight) from others. Yes, language has a lot to do with it but we found that what is important is to actively listen and distinguish between the two as we might miss a learning that would greatly benefit us.

Ultimately, we wonder if initially assuming preparation and genuine advice is a better risk management tool as opposed to leaning on negativity in the first instance? It then comes down to knowing ourselves and others in a way that is non-judgmental and with goodness with a focus on ensuring that ideas and actions are clearly intentioned and lead to goodness for both ourselves and others.

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