Ramadan 23: Women Equality based on Happiness?

In their (women) quest for rights they have naturally placed emphasis on their wrongs rather than their achievements and possessions, and have retold history as a story of their long martyrdom. – Mary Ritter Beard

We always thought to ourselves, if women want equality, why did they not seek equality on their own terms? Why did they not seek equality based on their own set of strengths and natural characteristics? Why is it that they fought for equality through the eyes of ‘men’ and what ‘men’ would measure as success? Yes, the definition of success for men is NOT the same as the definition of success for women, and vice versa.

Women, generally speaking, are naturally giving, analytical, loving, organised, outspoken, inquisitive, comforting, spiritual, devoted and social ‘fixers and changers’. What we found is that once women are put in a situation or has built up expectations that force them to be something other than their natural selves, they eventually get over-stressed and depressed negatively impacting their health, home, environment, and eventually, the whole of society.

Having said that, women have a good story to tell and in fact, they are the key ingredient for a stable and happy society. So, we were thinking out loud, instead of focusing on women employment/involvement gaps in university programs, industries, CEO jobs and governance boards, etc… why wouldn’t we look at women rights from a ‘happiness’ perspective? What would make women happy, fulfilled, with a variety of options in order to be leaders on their own terms in parallel to ensuring equal opportunity for all?

What if women designed their own set of success criteria?