Ramadan 15: The Rest Shall Follow

When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends. – Japanese Proverb

Today marks the middle of our special month that seems, like the rest of our days, to pass so quickly that we will barely remember them. Fact: they make up 8.3% of our whole year, not much eh? 

We are all different and no one truly knows another unless, as one of the prophet’s companions once said, they travelled with them, lent them money, or were neighbors. Barring these things, we found that one of the other possible ways we can reflect on who we or others are is through our or their friends. How, you may ask?

Well, let’s think about it for a bit, if one hung around people who are materialistic, arrogant and phony, can we not assume that that person is like that as well? Actually, we don’t, but we can with a twist. We can believe two things: one – they are the same as them and two – they may not be like them and hate that behaviour but are driven, at that moment, by the same underlying principles. Take another example, you hang around people who are spiritual, kind, generous and successful, we can then believe two things: one – you are the same as them and two – you are not the same as them but are driven, at that moment, by the same underlying good principles. Notice that we say and, since unless we travel with them, lend them money or be their neighbor, we will never know 100%, and even then, we cannot judge that they will never change.

We ask allah to give us the strength to ‘see’ ourselves through our friends and reflect on where we stand … we either like what we see and thank god for it or we don’t, and take action to change who we are and the rest shall follow.